Fierce: having or showing a lot of strong emotion : very strong or intense. “Fierce.” Merriam-Webster.com. Merriam-Webster, n.d. Web. 31 Aug. 2016.
There are several definitions that can define fierce – some having to do violence even. But the fierce I believe I identify with most is the one listed above. The one that involves the ability to have strong emotions. Not the “intense” emotions of those that get their feelings hurt over everything and have an intense reaction. The intensity that allows me to connect with others to empathize with others (when needed).
We all have this fierceness within us, but so many lack the ability to let her out. To let her roam the earth with us. We are timid, people pleasers of sorts. We don’t want to hurt people’s feelings so we say nothing. We don’t speak out about the things we don’t like and when those that do speak out we get uncomfortable with it. Now, this is not to say that everyone that speaks out about a “cause” is doing it because they are fierce; perhaps they want the publicity or they want the negative reactions. Speaking out, being fierce in our beliefs, our values, our morals does not have to result in negativity. We can be fierce without intentionally offending people. Yes, we will always offend people. There is always someone who will get up in their feelings because they feel like others are picking on them; but standing for what you believe in is not only fierce but fearless.
“Love with a fierceness strong enough to change the world.”
― Karen A. Baquiran
This may be one of my more favorite quotes. One just discovered. We spend so much time hating, putting others down, judging, condemning them; we fail to show love, compassion, kindness. No wonder we live in a world with such hate and despair. I struggle with the phrase, “love trumps hate.” However, for the purpose of this let’s use it. If we put as much love as we do judgment, condemnation, hate, gossip, negativity into this world we could change it. We could make it a better place. A place where we are not constantly at war – whether an actual war or war of words. If we loved each other and all of our differences we could change what this world has become. Even then, if just one person loves with a fierceness strong enough to change the world, it may not be the whole world that they change, but the world, the life of one person. In turn, that person does the same – and now we have a movement. One of kindness and compassion. We can’t change the whole world all at once – but we can change the world one person at a time.
One of the things that I’m learning from the death of my brother is humility and kindness. I have learned from others how generous, and kind, and caring, and humble he was. I knew this about him, but I did not know to which extent this flowed. He was fierce in his love of others. He was fierce in his life. Unfortunately, not only was his own fierceness of love, kindness, and humility to others seen, but that fierceness of despair in himself and his life was seen – at the end. When we are fierce it’s not just in one area of life, but it flows to all areas – which can mean that when we hit rock bottom and find darkness, pain, hurt, demons they are fierce and sometimes our ability to fight them is not so fierce and we succumb to the darkness.
Be fierce in your passions, your interests, your kindness, your compassion, your humility. Do not be fierce in your fears, your hates, your darkness, your arrogance. We should all be courageous enough and fierce enough to truly live our lives and have undeniable humility and compassion for ourselves and others.